1. Home to Contradictions, 2. Six Degrees from Home, 3. Welcome Back to My Therapy,
4. Lying, Cheating, Stealing and Intent, 5. Power of You, 6. One Split Second,
7. Marvelous Mistakes, 8. I made a choice to make a change, 9. Connections to the Farm,
10. Back to the Farm, 11. It's a small world after all, 12 Fair Weather Friends,
13. Ghost of Roommates Past, 14. You can never go to far, 15. Glamorous Life,
16. Double Standards, 17. Lazy? No Exhausted, 18. Crossroads of Life and Death, 19. One Last Time, 20. When Worlds Collide I, 21. When Worlds Collide II, 22. When Worlds Collide III 23. The Unwanted New World, 24. Means the Old World Must Go, 25. So Where was God in all this? 26. Where did you get that from?, 27. The Reason for My Season, 28. Was Always a Little Rascal, 29. Pictures and Quotes of the Little Rascal and final chapter 30. Closing in Contradictions. ~Use these links to read in order (some chapters have songs, new added content, pictures or all:) Volume 2 >>>>>
At some point in time during these two days I inquired about the other drivers and found that the boy (driving the car Trey was in) and the couple in the the other car were both flown to Charlotte... all in critical condition. Trey had been taken to Union County because there was nothing they could do for him. The teenage driver had only had his license for 3 days at that time. I knew I needed to go see them but wasn't ready yet. I just couldn't do it at this time...
It was Friday and we had to go to the funeral home and make arrangements. I have never dreaded anything more in my life, except for the day before of course. I can't tell you if we went back to moms first because we were going back and forth between houses for weeks afterward and it really all blurs into one at this point. But Mom, Dad, Scott, Ariel, even Rosco and I went to the funeral home and sat through the meeting. My ex husband had flown back from New York where he was working and came to the home to attend the meeting with his dad. Dear Daisy was trying her very best to help but she was so stunned herself with everything that was going on and still trying to handle the bar at night... alone.
We sat through the paperwork and had to decide things like what to put in the obituary, what kind of service to have when, where. We then realized we would have to go get Trey some clothes later. I remember people asking a lot of questions and then we had to go pick out the casket. It was absolutely surreal to be looking at them with my ex and hearing his opinions. But I told him Trey's favorite color was green so I picked out the light metallic one for him. After that we had to wait for the final agreement to be drawn up and we took a smoke break. After we returned to pay the deposit and handle the rest... my ex was no where to be found. But my dear friend Scott knew a florist who would help and picked up the tab himself without ever letting me repay him.
Next we had to go to the cemetery and arrange all that there and decided to bury him the following Saturday afternoon. Then we had to go back to the funeral home to finalize the arrangement with the cemetery. Funny how I grew up coming to this very cemetery because my aunt had worked there for 20 some years and mom would stop by and talk to her on the way home sometimes. Never thought I'd be needing their services so soon though but my aunt didn't work there any more. Trey's friend Brian was buried here too, who died about 2 years earlier at the age of 16. I also went to school with Brian's dad who lived in the park up the street too and this may seem awful but I was just a little bit glad that Trey wouldn't be alone there. I would never wish this nightmare on any one but it happened nonetheless.
Yes I know the service was short notice but all I can say is that if he really mattered then only those would find a way to be there. If I had to wait until the next week I don't think I would have been able to make it that long. I know we contacted the school but I just can't remember if it was that particular day I did so in person, and asked if they would make an announcement over what ever system they used to inform all those who hadn't heard. Apparently as the first word of this happened to spread a lot of kids thought the other teenage driver of the car was killed and there was a lot of confusion. This principle didn't announce it in any meaningful, clear way so the students were made aware. At best there was a small ticker on the class room TV that people rarely paid attention to at the end of the day?!? It was the first time that principle would show just how unimportant Trey was at that school even though he was a senior that year.
We then went back to moms I think because this is were I met a lot of Trey's friends for the first time and was blown away at how many kids there, who loved my son. Almost all the kids from the trailer park were there and several who had to drive long distances to be there. I only knew a few names at first but there were at least 30 or so? in and out of there. The three beautiful girls that touched my heart lived really close and only one had a drivers license at that time... I think. One of those girls had lost her brother in a wreck some 5 years earlier so she understood everything that we were facing. The two boys that also touched my heart the most were the other two that had changed their minds at the last minute to not ride with Trey and the other boy. That decision might have saved their life but that too was not to be. One Trey had grown up with in the park and the other (Danny) had just moved outside of it recently but when him and Trey met, it was like they were kindred spirit brothers from another mother and again, little did we all know that at the time... Mom had come back from visiting Trey's beloved babysitter when he was younger and had found a preacher who would do the service. Most of us were sitting in Trey's room and I ended up taking his pillows home with me. I wanted something to feel close to him.
Later that night we all had to go get clothes and I remember Scott holding all of our purses while we tried to find clothes for Trey and ourselves. Neither mom or I had anything to wear and I was so miserable and crying. Other people were just going about their day as usual. How can that be? Didn't they know that my world had just been smashed into bits? Dear Ariel helped so much too and I don't know where I'd be had it not been for both of them. She paid for our purchases and did her best to keep our spirits up and we all talked about how low my ex was. I told them, they haven't seen nothing yet as far as he was concerned! Just wait and see. I think we had one more errand and I pushed through it knowing tomorrow would be here soon enough.
I wasn't doing any of this for me, it was going to be one of the last things I could do for my baby Trey and if it wasn't for that I wouldn't have been able to make it through the next few days. We got back to my house and others were gathering and soon met with the preacher to talk about Trey and the service. This man had presence but was very humbly, sympathetic to us and our situation although we had just met. We had a very powerful circle of prayer that night in my living room and again the moment, the people, the emotions were almost surreal. After he left people kept doing things in the house, the phones kept ringing, someone gave me a valium and I laid down.
I was exhausted and really appreciated everything that everyone was doing but I just wanted to be alone for a while. We had a long way to go before that could happen and the road became a little more bleak if that was even possible.
22. When Worlds Collide III >>>>>
4. Lying, Cheating, Stealing and Intent, 5. Power of You, 6. One Split Second,
7. Marvelous Mistakes, 8. I made a choice to make a change, 9. Connections to the Farm,
10. Back to the Farm, 11. It's a small world after all, 12 Fair Weather Friends,
13. Ghost of Roommates Past, 14. You can never go to far, 15. Glamorous Life,
16. Double Standards, 17. Lazy? No Exhausted, 18. Crossroads of Life and Death, 19. One Last Time, 20. When Worlds Collide I, 21. When Worlds Collide II, 22. When Worlds Collide III 23. The Unwanted New World, 24. Means the Old World Must Go, 25. So Where was God in all this? 26. Where did you get that from?, 27. The Reason for My Season, 28. Was Always a Little Rascal, 29. Pictures and Quotes of the Little Rascal and final chapter 30. Closing in Contradictions. ~Use these links to read in order (some chapters have songs, new added content, pictures or all:) Volume 2 >>>>>
At some point in time during these two days I inquired about the other drivers and found that the boy (driving the car Trey was in) and the couple in the the other car were both flown to Charlotte... all in critical condition. Trey had been taken to Union County because there was nothing they could do for him. The teenage driver had only had his license for 3 days at that time. I knew I needed to go see them but wasn't ready yet. I just couldn't do it at this time...
It was Friday and we had to go to the funeral home and make arrangements. I have never dreaded anything more in my life, except for the day before of course. I can't tell you if we went back to moms first because we were going back and forth between houses for weeks afterward and it really all blurs into one at this point. But Mom, Dad, Scott, Ariel, even Rosco and I went to the funeral home and sat through the meeting. My ex husband had flown back from New York where he was working and came to the home to attend the meeting with his dad. Dear Daisy was trying her very best to help but she was so stunned herself with everything that was going on and still trying to handle the bar at night... alone.
We sat through the paperwork and had to decide things like what to put in the obituary, what kind of service to have when, where. We then realized we would have to go get Trey some clothes later. I remember people asking a lot of questions and then we had to go pick out the casket. It was absolutely surreal to be looking at them with my ex and hearing his opinions. But I told him Trey's favorite color was green so I picked out the light metallic one for him. After that we had to wait for the final agreement to be drawn up and we took a smoke break. After we returned to pay the deposit and handle the rest... my ex was no where to be found. But my dear friend Scott knew a florist who would help and picked up the tab himself without ever letting me repay him.
Next we had to go to the cemetery and arrange all that there and decided to bury him the following Saturday afternoon. Then we had to go back to the funeral home to finalize the arrangement with the cemetery. Funny how I grew up coming to this very cemetery because my aunt had worked there for 20 some years and mom would stop by and talk to her on the way home sometimes. Never thought I'd be needing their services so soon though but my aunt didn't work there any more. Trey's friend Brian was buried here too, who died about 2 years earlier at the age of 16. I also went to school with Brian's dad who lived in the park up the street too and this may seem awful but I was just a little bit glad that Trey wouldn't be alone there. I would never wish this nightmare on any one but it happened nonetheless.
Yes I know the service was short notice but all I can say is that if he really mattered then only those would find a way to be there. If I had to wait until the next week I don't think I would have been able to make it that long. I know we contacted the school but I just can't remember if it was that particular day I did so in person, and asked if they would make an announcement over what ever system they used to inform all those who hadn't heard. Apparently as the first word of this happened to spread a lot of kids thought the other teenage driver of the car was killed and there was a lot of confusion. This principle didn't announce it in any meaningful, clear way so the students were made aware. At best there was a small ticker on the class room TV that people rarely paid attention to at the end of the day?!? It was the first time that principle would show just how unimportant Trey was at that school even though he was a senior that year.
We then went back to moms I think because this is were I met a lot of Trey's friends for the first time and was blown away at how many kids there, who loved my son. Almost all the kids from the trailer park were there and several who had to drive long distances to be there. I only knew a few names at first but there were at least 30 or so? in and out of there. The three beautiful girls that touched my heart lived really close and only one had a drivers license at that time... I think. One of those girls had lost her brother in a wreck some 5 years earlier so she understood everything that we were facing. The two boys that also touched my heart the most were the other two that had changed their minds at the last minute to not ride with Trey and the other boy. That decision might have saved their life but that too was not to be. One Trey had grown up with in the park and the other (Danny) had just moved outside of it recently but when him and Trey met, it was like they were kindred spirit brothers from another mother and again, little did we all know that at the time... Mom had come back from visiting Trey's beloved babysitter when he was younger and had found a preacher who would do the service. Most of us were sitting in Trey's room and I ended up taking his pillows home with me. I wanted something to feel close to him.
Later that night we all had to go get clothes and I remember Scott holding all of our purses while we tried to find clothes for Trey and ourselves. Neither mom or I had anything to wear and I was so miserable and crying. Other people were just going about their day as usual. How can that be? Didn't they know that my world had just been smashed into bits? Dear Ariel helped so much too and I don't know where I'd be had it not been for both of them. She paid for our purchases and did her best to keep our spirits up and we all talked about how low my ex was. I told them, they haven't seen nothing yet as far as he was concerned! Just wait and see. I think we had one more errand and I pushed through it knowing tomorrow would be here soon enough.
I wasn't doing any of this for me, it was going to be one of the last things I could do for my baby Trey and if it wasn't for that I wouldn't have been able to make it through the next few days. We got back to my house and others were gathering and soon met with the preacher to talk about Trey and the service. This man had presence but was very humbly, sympathetic to us and our situation although we had just met. We had a very powerful circle of prayer that night in my living room and again the moment, the people, the emotions were almost surreal. After he left people kept doing things in the house, the phones kept ringing, someone gave me a valium and I laid down.
I was exhausted and really appreciated everything that everyone was doing but I just wanted to be alone for a while. We had a long way to go before that could happen and the road became a little more bleak if that was even possible.
22. When Worlds Collide III >>>>>
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